August 16, 2007

• A Short Engagement

  I confess: I wish I was getting married next year.
  
  Well, that's not entirely true. I mainly wish I had more time to plan the wedding. So, I guess you could say, I wish I got engaged earlier.

  Mr. Eggplant proposed mid January, 2007. By the time we kicked our wedding planning butts into gear, we were a mere eight months away from our big day. In the "real world," eight months is a-plenty. But in "wedding world" eight months flies by... like, yesterday!
  
  I can't help but be jealous of the bees on this site with engagements of at least a year and a half. When I first told my friends and family that our wedding date was this year, I received many shocked stares in response. As the first in my circle to get married, I never would've suspected nine months was a short engagement. Apparently it is! And seven months into planning, I can now see why.
  
  For the past three months, I've been wishing, "If I only had three more months!" There are sooooo many things that I want to do for our wedding, but simply don't have time. For example, if I had more time, I'd save up money to rent a photo booth. I would've been more selective about finding the perfect dress. I mean, I LOVE my dress. I just wish I had a chance to visit more salons before making my final decision. Perhaps a trip to LA or NY would've satisfied my gown curiosity. If we got engaged earlier, maybe my dream venue wouldn't have been booked. And I could've rented a petting zoo for the children. Ok, so no petting zoo. But I do wish that I had more time to spend in premarital counseling and on DIY projects.
  
  I think the stress of planning finally getting to me. In the past week, two of my co-workers resigned, and unfortunately all their workload falls on my shoulders (!!!). Not to mention, the little exclamation marks on my Knot checklist are scolding me. Last I heard, there's still only 24 hours in a day!

  With all that's been going on recently, it has been harder to remember that our wedding day is about my marriage with Mr. Eggplant, and not how many crafts I can cram into one event or how much fun our guests have. Back in January, when we first became engaged, Mr. Eggplant did not see a reason to wait a year and a half to get married. He had a family member whose health was failing and it was important for us to have this person at our wedding, so we decided to get married within the year. Also, Mr. Eggplant simply wanted to start our lives together earlier. How could I argue with that?

  Somewhere along the lines (or between the crafts), I have forgotten that our wedding day is not the end, but merely the beginning of a far greater adventure.

  Anyone else feel this way at the two month mark? How have you gotten past this bump?

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